Why did white women vote for Trump?

Women are still encouraged to oppress themselves.

This is what self-oppression looks like.

Since the Election of Doom prominent liberals have expressed shock and dismay at the 53% of white women who voted for Trump. Tina Fey sort of joked, “A lot of this election was turned by white, college-educated women who now would like to forget about this election and go back to watching HGTV.” Samantha Bee told white women they “have a lot of karma to work off.” And Lena Dunham lib-splained on The View that white women are “not only voting against the interests of their sisters, of women who may not look like them, who they may not understand, but whose rights are just as important,” but also “voting against their own best interest.”

And they’re totally right, even about HGTV.  The nesting instinct is strong in them.


When some of the ladies pushed back at Lena’s scolding she, to her credit, said:

“So many women aren’t raised with the rhetoric of self-empowerment. The messages they’re hearing from Donald Trump may be similar to the messages they’ve heard from their fathers, their brothers, their husbands. They haven’t been given the message that they do matter.”

Absolutely. Lena can be a bit artless, but her aim is true.

I live in the Deep Dirty South. Southeast Tennessee, an hour and 45 minutes drive north of Atlanta. One of my friends lives next door to snake handlers and it only takes 50 minutes to drive to my house in the burbs. Suburbs that are getting increasingly poorer and filled with people who are overworked, bullied and getting an average of $9 or $10 an hour.

There are no services here. No affordable daycare, no good mental health services or treatment centers for drug abuse, which is rife. There’s not an abortion provider within a 200 mile radius of where I live and schools still teach the oppressive lessons of abstinence-only education. Churches are everywhere, but not very accepting of people’s differences and struggles at all. Medicaid wasn’t expanded here and I fall in the gap since I have decided not to have children. Only mothers get help- and not much of it. The courts fight hard to not give people any type of disability or financial support when they need it. It’s an $8/hour town and everyone serves the tourists and gentrifiers. A trace of weed will put you in one of the worst private jails in the country.


This is why it’s so interesting for me to watch the rest of the country collectively plotz over losing rights I’ve never known! It’s all academic to me. Planned Parenthood might get defunded? I’ve never even seen one! Free women’s health services are scarce and/or underground here. All the “clinics” are propaganda studios set up to look like helpful people. They aren’t. We have a lot of Catholic-run hospitals too.

Lots of pundits immediately took a strongly worded stance against the working-class poor who supposedly ushered him into office. No one was surprised to see certain types of men in certain states vote for a human molotov cocktail, but coastal feminists seemed deeply shocked that educated (and not particularly poor) white women sold themselves out so enthusiastically.

I am Jack’s complete lack of surprise.

I remained extremely, delusionally hopeful that Hillary, as much as I dreaded HER=>, was in the lead. I even felt a strangely nice, proud, floaty feeling for about five hours and went to see my mom and tell her I just voted for the first woman president – in America, that is. I felt the relief that many of us did after we cast our fateful votes in November.

BUT . . .

I was born and raised in the South and, as Dave Chappelle says, “I know the whites!” For instance:

At least they give each other orgasms down here.

I don’t actually know if Mount Pleasant is in the South, but that pretty much sums up the attitude people take towards those who, “don’t live their lives the right way.” I live next door to two old farts who are “one issue voters,” namely, the abortion issue. They also hate gays with a fiery vehemence that can quickly sour the meals my family occasionally invites them to. These are people who strictly limit the amount of time their grandchildren can visit – to almost never. It’s great fun.

And they sure as hell ain’t poor. But I have a feeling that these radical views are mostly the wife’s thing. Projected shame is still a sport for many bitter women.

This woman would get more votes.

In a nutshell, women down in America’s steamy under-carriage haven’t been woke yet, and are still unable to see the conventions that bind them. It’s no guarantee that every woman who even goes to college will “encounter” the right reading material or social awareness groups.

More insidiously, there persists a culture of religious sexual shaming coupled with highly sexualized media. Women are still under-represented in positions of power and are socialized to compete with perceived scarce resources among themselves. Gender expectations remain very binary in red states. Only two years ago I still thought of myself as only competent enough to do secretary-like work.

When oppressed women (who don’t know they’re oppressed) see a woman like Hillary Clinton who “thinks she’s all that” while genuinely being a deeply flawed candidate “get above herself” they will balk and gladly vote for a buffoon who only reflects the same sexist attitudes the men they love possess. Add in all the years of Fox News explaining how Hillary is the worst human female to ever stride about in public discourse, and you’ve got a bunch of women who are going to vote along with their husbands for Trump despite any “locker room talk.”

The more misinformed you are, the more likely you are to be unable to see the various types of discrimination that affect you personally.

While I have not been able to find any  numbers on the percentage of single (or divorced, widowed, or gay) women who voted for Trump over Hillary, most post-election articles site these stats:




The differences in education are important and clear, but what they indicate under the surface, where most female oppression takes place, is that education is important for women to have so they can “have their consciousnesses raised” as our Boomer feminist forebears would say. A lack of education in a woman’s life leads to increased financial dependence on traditional gender roles. In other words, the less educated you are, the more likely you are to be unable to see the various types of discrimination that affect you personally. (It’s interesting to note that more non-educated black women voted for Clinton than educated black women.)

Rather than blaming less educated, older, and married women for putting Trump in office, we need to publicly acknowledge that women are intimately oppressed in America to a degree that drastically affects our elections as well as other American institutions.

The Other Shoe Just Dropped

The 21st century just got realer.

I minored in history while at college in the late 90s/early 00s. I had an amazing American history professor who brought it alive with passion and sarcasm. He made us read Horatio Alger and Alvin Toffler’s Future Shock. It was a pre-Bush, pre-9/11 different time when music was angsty, but life was not (in hindsight). But I remember something he said then that I balked at initially – he made a point of telling us that the Internet would change the world in ways we couldn’t possibly imagine happening.

Not with all the monkeys and typewriters in the universe.

This was not long after the time AOL took off and everyone had to wait for hours to dial-up their connection. I couldn’t imagine how something that putted along at that bandwidth could cause the kinds of changes – and realizations about ourselves – that he warned us about.

I thought he was being an old ninny, but I was a real asshole then.

The world didn’t end at the millennium and the computers didn’t take over or die. Then when I was in grad school 9/11 happened. An understandable sense of doom and newfound vulnerability swept over people old enough to grow up afraid of nuclear winters. Then unending wars, Hurricane Katrina, economic collapse, and totally stagnant wages. Me and the local wags who sit outside coffee shops thought every new catastrophe was “the other shoe dropping” after the towers came down.

We were wrong every time. The real other shoe just dropped and it has steel toes and swastikas.

The extremeness of 9/11 should’ve tipped us off that the 21st century is a whole other bowl of nuts. My favorite period in history is the 20th century. You’ve got to admit as wild as all of history is, the 20th century was super awful and super exciting. Two major reasons – technology and genocide. The entire paradigm of our scientific view shifted and we started waging massive wars against civilian populations. We created more moonscapes than we explored.

As for the 21st century, such as it now is, I don’t know what the hell the major themes will be but I suspect we are genuinely in a pickle here. Looking out my window right now the street is hazed with choking smoke from the forest fires raging near my home in Tennessee. The Tennessee Valley hasn’t had a drop of rain in months and fires lit shortly after Halloween are making the air barely breathable.


And everyone around me voted for a tangerine primal scream. 




She Coulda Been My Sister: The Mental Gymnastics of Male Sympathy


Aside from the sheer creepiness of every other detail of the Trump Tapes story, I noticed something about the reactions from many Republican politicians – they collectively imagined that the women being spoken about were related to them and thus discovered a conduit to finding within themselves sympathy for women in general.

À lá “A Time to Kill” only with sexism instead of racism.

All those clips of them explaining that they’re appalled that Trump would speak so nastily about women; because they have daughters and wives and sisters and they thought of someone saying gross things about the women they love. But I’ve never had to do a complicated jig in my head to feel sympathy for a man I was not related to. I’ve never had to think of a man or boy who has been wronged as my literal brother to understand that he is fundamentally just like me. I’ve never had to de-sexualize a man to know what comments might infringe on his dignity.

That men do this is mind-bending to me. And that’s essentially what they are having to do. Divorce attraction from womanhood and think of non-sexual (except in the case of wives who have actually become mothers) examples from their personal experience. The problem is that many men (#NotAllMen) have a general relationship to everyone and everything female that seems skewed, and deeply insulting, when it peeps out of the shadows (outside your window while you’re changing.) It’s difficult for me to understand as a woman and difficult to spot, because it’s so normal. At least in the 60s you knew where you stood!


I worked in a pool hall kitchen where all my redneck male bosses couldn’t figure out how to communicate with me because I wasn’t either their mother or a whore (which is how they classified the waitresses). I baffled them completely. They stopped talking to me altogether and left me garbled notes on a whiteboard. I think the sexism we teach to boys cripples their ability to extend sympathy to women in a way most women can’t possibly understand.

It’s glimpses like this that remind me that the focus is mostly on how white men can’t possibly understand what it feels like to be degraded as a woman or other minority. Or combination of minorities.

Shine on Diane & Melissa.

But maybe there are differences between me and a man that I can’t possibly understand through empathy or mental gymnastics. Cultural things. Hormonal things.

I always assume every man I meet is a complicated individual with different ideas and interests and temperaments. Different levels of potential and a singular point of view. Each one a hairy snowflake.

It explodes my brain to try imagining what a man like Trump or Billy Bush or Billy Cosby or Billy Clinton really thinks when he sees a woman. To look at a person and see less than a person there that you are also compelled to violate is something I can get on my high horse about. I will be the first to throw a stone (figuratively) at men who assert power in this way. Literally, they need to be to do at least as much jail time as I have for drunk driving.

They never will.


Point by Point: The Scolding of Colin Kaepernick

Full text of column: Athletes shouldn’t protest cops, they should partner with them (The Tennessean, September 21 ’16)

Are you ready for some white-splaining?

“Much has been said about NFL players kneeling to protest racial injustice and police brutality during the national anthem. And San Francisco 49ers quarterback Colin Kaepernick has been at the forefront of the movement.”

Somehow, I think you are going to say more. After all, this is the news mag of record in Tennessee. How bad could it it be? Nashville has made great strides in joining the mainstream in recent years.

Ok, just an eponymous show.

“To any professional athletes who share Kaepernick’s concerns, I say do not protest the police. Partner with them. Work together to find a solution.”

That’s OK. Lots of guys from a “law enforcement background” have difficulty seeing things from the opposite point of view. He thinks it is incumbent upon the people to “be the bigger person” and initiate a pas de deux with the sprawling criminal justice complex to somehow, vaguely, partner with law enforcement to get them to view the populaces they police differently. I wonder what message that campaign might have.  


 “. . . law enforcement would rather be a positive influence in communities than use force to address crime.”

Then why do they look like they are so into it


“Today’s climate of anger, acerbic rhetoric and finger-pointing will solve nothing. Neither will the violent protests and rioting that took place Tuesday in Charlotte, and that have happened in many other cities this year.”

If the cause is just, then outrage, biting rhetoric, correcting the blame, and protesting are the only things that change policy in a rigged legal system. Very recent, recorded, and highly celebrated American history has proven this to be so. Since police departments all over the country have decided to be less than transparent with evidence, and untouchable by the rule of law, then poor populations of people who have been disenfranchised by the system they are protesting will have to inconvenience those who perpetuate the problem. 

“As a father, former detective and American, it also grieves me when I read about the violence in Chicago — young people, parents and the elderly caught in the crossfire of gangs. All part of a growing American tragedy.”

Thanks for dropping this here to bring up a different subject.


Ok. Maybe he’s a little bit racist. That’s some weapons-grade blaming and finger-pointing right there. 

Before athletes speak out about complex law enforcement issues they might not understand,

OKOKOK. Stop right there!

They are mainly protesting condescension in all its forms! The idea that they don’t know what’s good for them and you, without demonstrable empathy, do know exactly how to address a problem. When you are the problem no less. They call it “flippin’ the script” in the neighborhoods you police the most. It’s as insulting to athletes as it is to black people. Athletes don’t know how to think about social issues? I beg to differ. There are lots of intelligent athletes. Good Lord, I’m scared about the rest of this sentence.

” . . . they should spend time with law enforcement officers going through training simulations and experiencing the split-second reality of policing. This would greatly help athletes understand the challenges and dangers confronted by law enforcement. It has been shown that civic leaders who have been through simulated police experiences leave with a different perspective.

So. Go out of your way to understand how right law enforcement is to use force. Understand how pumped you can get after a chase. Understand what it’s like to have the law on your side, rather than codified against it. Understand us even though we signed up to understand you and your motivations. After all, who’s the professional here? Pro athletes. Not the guys with official-looking badges and uniforms worn off the field of a game. 

“But some youth, for various reasons, have come to see the police as their enemy, and too often an us vs. them mentality develops.”

First of all, look into those various reasons real close. So the youth, some of them, are the only ones with an “us vs. them” mentality? They are to blame for police militarization and not a really specific act? And white cops policing black communities when black cops would have a better chance to bond with those much-mentioned troubled youth was the kids’ idea?

“Athletes, through their charitable foundations, could create community centers that give kids access to sports, job training, mentoring and parenting classes to help build stronger families.”

Again this requires more effort on your end, athletes. Though very few of you ever attain the wealth to do this, let it be your responsibility to improve the terrible state of people in your part of town. No quid pro quo here.

“We can do more side by side than we can screaming at each other and disrespecting our nation. If those who protest want to make a change, let’s come together as Americans to build a bridge, serve families, and save lives.”

Policing is about building figurative bridges, serving families, and saving lives. Athletics is about winning a contrived competition on a field of play. What were you going to do again in this partnership, cops? Other than do your job ethically and skillfully, which you presently are not. I’ll wait.

And I find it hard to believe “our nation” will get its feelings hurt, or get tased, or have its breath cut off, or have its heart stopped by a bullet. The police aren’t just screaming – they’re murdering and injuring and degrading. Words won’t hurt you, boys in blue, but night sticks and fists and fines and powerlessness will every time.


“I am ready, and my brothers and sisters in blue will join me. Will you?”

Take us by the hand. We only await your complete compliance.

What is the real #truth about the “smoking wage gap”?

via #FinishIT | Smoking Gap | truth


I’ve got to call out the truth ad campaign on some falsehoods. They posit in their latest ad that smoking lowers your earning potential. It doesn’t matter by how much because it actually doesn’t affect what you get paid, but how much disposable income goes towards necessities. But they suggest, boldly, that smokers earn less. Not true (for the reasons they suggest.)

Far be it from me to discourage anyone from quitting smoking. I was raised around smokers and learned to hate the stale, foul odors that clung to my loved ones from an early age. When I was three, my Dad quit smoking because I asked him to. Other relatives – not so much. My grandmother smoked Alpine (generic) menthols until her death and my grandfather on the other side smoked Prince Edwards until he got lip cancer.

I worked in the “unskilled” labor market for many years and still do so occasionally. Hell, even when I do skilled work I make unskilled wages here in Tennessee. (Opening a factory? Come to lovely Tennessee! It’s the best state for bilking wage earners.) There’s something about busting your ass for people who look down on you socially that really makes you want to have a smoke break. In fact, if you don’t smoke you might not get a break. I can’t back up that assertion with a link to some evidence because I know this from plain old personal experience. You’re going to have to take my word for it.

Why not die young if you work for tips?

Low wage work breeds low esteem for your own life. You get batted around by the bottom dollar. There doesn’t seem like a lot of hope in your life for a future. There is also a link between generational poverty, poor education, and bad habits. Recent studies have emerged showing that raising wages, even a little bit, reduces smoking rates among those workers. The reasoning goes, “If I have a better chance of affording the things I need, I might as well improve other aspects of my life. Why don’t I quit smoking so I can live to enjoy my greater spending capacity?”

So the good people who have taken on the admirable task of discouraging tobacco use in young people by providing information have over-stepped. If what you are saying is not really the #truth, then kids will begin to mistrust you. If kids begin to mistrust you, they will stop listening to you.

My generation learned this the rough way by being indoctrinated in the false dangers of marijuana use. Our reasoning went, “I tried pot and that shit was a revelation. What will happen with cocaine? Is it mild and not very addictive too?” No. Not all intoxicants are created equal. That’s a dangerous lesson for millions to learn by trial and error.

People will make healthy life choices if you give them access to the right tools. As a society, we need accurate information, widely disseminated. We need alternatives to bad habits and addiction. We need evidence-based methods for getting and staying off addictive substances, legal and illegal. We need enough opportunities for people to escape their current living situations. How about we also stop ruining people’s lives with incarceration, court costs, and criminal records?

I suppose it’s the amount of exposure this ad has gotten, bombarding me in the middle of Hulu shows, that prompts me to write something . There is also a danger in over-stigmatizing a growing segment of the population – bummed-out poor people – as being the cause of their own need for artificial comfort.  We have a class problem here in America that we seldom address. Not every problem we have boils down to race but race is usually a factor in every problem. But money trumps everything.


The vital missing parts of drug treatment

via Obama Administration Offers Desperately Needed Help For People Addicted To Opioids

When I grew up in the 80s, drugs were no less than a demon scourge come to take your soul away if you so much as got a contact high. Nancy Reagan went a long way to make a lot of people really miserable. But the guiding philosophy on drug abuse was that it’s  up to you to kick it’s ass – anything less than total sobriety is a moral failure on your part. You didn’t try hard enough. The AA Big Book famously states

“Our description of the alcoholic . . . makes clear three pertinent ideas. . . (b) That probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism.”

-AA Big Book, pg. 60 (right after the 12 steps)

It also has one chapter called “Women Suffer Too”

It goes on to say that the only way to recover from alcohol addiction is through a spiritual awakening. Presumably, you come to realize you are a terrible sinner and it magically cures toxic shame, trauma, and mental illness. But heroin is the end boss of addictions. It directly rewires the reward centers of the brain and can condition a sufferer’s mind to obsess over everything about the habit (including the gross parts). It turns lovely, brilliant people into cringing thieves, serial liars, and corpses. I’ve seen it first hand and I’ve had terrible run-ins with opiate addicts. Never, ever take one in out of pity if you value your valuables.

You can buy them back cheap though.

I’ve also been to court ordered rehab myself. I was there for booze issues, and I know I didn’t envy all the women who came in addicted to needles and pills. They were quickly put on suboxone and just as quickly weaned off of it. They seemed fine, but most relapsed when returned to the compromising living situations they wanted to escape.

Obama is trying to get money to states for MAT, or medically assisted treatment, for opiate addicts. Almost all treatment facilities use faith-based methods and 12-step principles (which are also faith-based). However, there is zero evidence that these programs are any more effective than trying to quit on your own. Medication is changing the way heroin addicts are treated though. Suboxone is a maintenance opiate that prevents dope-sickness and can be controlled to wean the brain off of the changes in dopamine production that make getting clean so vexing and, frequently, otherwise impossible.

And there were a lot of sufferers, especially among the women I encountered. In fact there was a triad of opiates, alcohol, and eating disorders I kept noticing. All of us had problems with at least two. I’m sure it bears better investigation. Anyway, I’ve been sober for three years and dealing with the criminal justice system and state rehab was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Staying sober has been a breeze, by comparison.

A female addict’s real problems are seldom addressed.

One class we had in rehab was a revelation to me. It was oddly called “gender,” just “gender” class and it means the men and the women (insultingly labeled by staff as males and females like we are on in a Mutual of Omaha special and not adult humans) were split up to discuss our unique issues. I figured out it was especially important for the ladies to go into a safe place to discuss aspects of our addictions, and what they’d done to us and made us do, that we would hardly bring up in court-ordered mixed company. Once the floodgates open in a counseling environment where problems related to relationships with men, LBTQ struggles, and our difficulties in society can be explored, it is apparent that any one of us would naturally turn to chemical solutions to deal with what we had survived. Experiences such as domestic violence, sexual abuse in childhood and adulthood, work discrimination, heart-breaking childcare challenges, the effects of rape and rape culture, neglect, financial morasses, and our submerged status start to tumble out.

By the end of the short class (which usually went on long after the men were done) I knew that more of this type of consciousness raising was absolutely a seldom-used tool for getting to the underlying trauma and powerlessness that leads women (and many men) to relapse. A female addict’s real problems are seldom addressed. 12-step programs focus overly on how relapse and the initial drug experimentation that led to addiction are our fault. It is clear that most of these women were not receiving the kind of educational awakening and support services that would profoundly improve their chances of staying clean and avoiding more contact with the criminal justice system.

The focus typical of modern treatment programs is on “triggers” and how to deal with them. But quickly one realizes in the program that life is a trigger and the majority of women there will not be able to escape the “people, places, and things” that remind them of using. What they really couldn’t escape were the life circumstances that led to addiction in the first place. They would be returning their small towns with no employment opportunities or community centers, their abusive domestic situations, their untreated (unacknowledged) traumas, their grief over the custodial loss of their children, and their very poor financial prospects.

I hope that we can come to see addiction and relapse also as failings of society. I hope we can change treatment to include medications for addiction maintenance and mental health problems. I hope we can tell women that life isn’t always hard because they are failures. It’s because life is hard for a lot of women and not enough, not nearly enough, is being done to improve their circumstances.

Nervous Law Professor Fears that Ruth Bader Ginsberg Will Destroy SCOTUS

You look how I feel, babe.

via Notorious RBG Apologists Are Picking A Dangerous Fight

For the full article I am discussing, click on the link above. If you want to fully understand what I am critiquing, you should read it so I don’t have to quote too much from it! And yes, I do “Press” a lot of things I find on Huffpost.

A little background on RGB:

Ruth Bader Ginsberg has been seated on the Supreme Court since Bill Clinton appointed her in 1993. Before that, she rose through the ranks through sheer force of her intelligence and determination. She had to hurtle some very sexist people to get to this highest position, and is generally praised for being a progressive champion of women’s rights throughout her tenure there. She is also famous for her biting dissent statements of certain controversial SCOTUS decisions. They are a pleasure to read.

“Justice Ginsburg is not going to win a battle of insults with Donald Trump, and progressives cannot afford to give up the firewall of an independent judiciary as protection against the worst impulses and excesses of our politics.  Progressives do not want to live in a world where we have completely erased the line between politicians and judges.”

-Steve  Sanders, nervous Constitutional  law professor

However, many are criticizing Ginsberg for speaking out against Trump, fearing that the whiff of partiality in a Supreme Court judge is enough to somehow undermine the entire institution. Hardly.

I submit that (by Sanders’ in admission) the Supreme Court has been for too beneficial to conservative causes and has too much potential to do so in the future. Many have expressed anger at the unelected status of Constitutional law judges, but generally only when the decisions have not been going their way.

Progressives are defending her comments by the old “desperate times call for desperate measures” justification. I tend to agree. Although this article and story are a bit stale, we can see after a few months that few in power possessing the gravitas and experience of Ginsberg have quite said enough. The media has been entirely remiss in checking the leaks in Trump’s completely fictional persona, autobiographical proclamations, and mendacious business practices. Also he’s a child rapist.

The first election I remember was Regan’s second campaign in 1984. Shortly thereafter my male relatives began listening to a radio host named Rush Limbaugh. Then, as Fox news gained ascendancy in the mainstream media, I noticed we didn’t talk about politics in quite the same way anymore. It would’ve been helpful if other TV news organizations were better at debunking, and directly, the Ailes-constructed propaganda machine, but Jon Stewart was largely alone, freed by his “unofficial newsman” status.

Now, after the appointment of a sexually abusive judge in 1991 (who has wisely clammed up for the rest of his tenure) and the slow erosion of Constitutional rights at the state level, a smart guy is worried about a judge who makes a few comments directed at a demagogue and dangerous strongman who has revitalized the darkest philosophies and misunderstandings in the American consciousness, that this will be enough to topple the last bastion of civil power in a hugely rigged system of policy-making.

Stop your hand-wringing, madame. I still think the Supreme court will be around tomorrow because if I have learned one thing being an American political spectator for 30 years, is that we seldom change very much at all.